What if I don’t like him as much as I think I do?

The Boston Globe · Meredith Goldstein · 2026-11-01 20:00 UTC

I just started doing long-distance with my boyfriend. I am afraid.

Q. I just started doing long-distance with my boyfriend. I am afraid.

I know I love him, but I fear that my love for him will be tested in this new situation. It’s going to be a 12-hour time difference between us, and I am afraid I will find out that I don’t like him as much as I think I do, or that it was more about convenience. I fear I will be thrown off track, whereas up until now I know we’ve been on the same page.

We want to be engaged and married in the next two years, and our values align, but I’ve always been an anxious-attached person, and he’s very secure.

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